On Monday, I was scheduled to be in an all-day training on tax law. Unfortunately, I didn't realize I signed up for the West Coast webinar until it was too late to change it. The class would be from 11 AM to 7 PM. Initially, I thought it would be fine. I would just not go into the office until 11. But then I had a few clients show up ready to do business. I decided to go in early to make sure I didn't lose momentum on those projects.
In class, I obsessively checked my email to make sure I didn't miss anything important from the clients or the product sponsor or the vet (my dogs were in for a visit), or the mechanic (my husband's truck wouldn't start). I wasn't engaged in the one thing I had on my schedule for the day
About 1 PM, the urge started to build. I decided it would be great to get McDonald's when I went to pick up my son from school. The thought began to consume my attention. Never mind that I had prepared food on Sunday for the week and had even managed to get to work with my prepped food. I focused on the desire for hot grease and let go of everything else. So, of course, I overate. And I felt terrible physically all night.
What happened here? On the surface, I had a bad day, and it was perfectly natural to react poorly.
In reality, I focused on my negative thoughts to the point that I just wanted to escape the room and escape myself. McDonald's is excellent for that.
But, objectively, why was my day "bad"?
The seminar is actually fantastic. The speakers are top-notch. However, no one can hold the attention of someone who is not present mentally.
My focus was on the disappointment of the time zone mix-up, having to do the class online instead of in-person, and on all the things my phone might be trying to tell me. I was thinking about the timing of getting kids, dogs, and vehicles picked up from various locations and praying my cellular signal would hold up, so I didn't miss a polling question on the webinar, and thereby, my credit for the class.
These thoughts generated various negative emotions that led straight to a McDonald's binge.
Because of all the work I have done, I can see it clearly, even though I did not choose to halt the behavior in the moment. I was aware of it. I just decided to indulge in it.
But only for a few hours, not a few days, or weeks or months. I didn't use it as an excuse to throw away my eating plan or exercise plan because I don't have the willpower to stick to them.
So today is the second day of the webinar. I got up, walked, took a shower, and got dressed up for the day (Thank you, Rent the Runway). I got my prepped food out of the fridge and put it by my purse. I emailed my clients this morning to take care of my part of the process that needs to be completed today. I will plug my phone in on the other side of the room today. I will show up ready to focus on the information I need to serve my tax clients this coming season.
I will be able to make this shift because I understand what happened. I don't need to beat myself up for overeating. I won't indulge in self-pity over another lost workday or staying late to finish the class. I just need to make the next best decision.
I want to be able to show you how to pull yourself out of a negative spiral. You do have the power within you to change whenever you decide that it is important to you. That's what coaching and self-coaching are all about. In my program, I teach you the skills to use your thoughts to change your emotions and actions. When you know how to do that, you get to create whatever you want in your life. You show up how you decide, not in reaction to whatever happened to you today.
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